Books in Review: Boundaries (Updated and Expanded)

​​I have been curious about this book for quite some time, but decided to take a chance on finding a used copy. This book took me longer than average to finish – almost a week. This is because there is a ton of information and suggested methods to process here. I think this book has a lot of great information that has the potential to change people’s lives. However, I think at times that it was so much information, it was difficult to process. I might argue that this book would be better if it was broken up into a series. This book for those that want to take boundaries seriously and are willing to do the work necessary to make that happen. If you aren’t serious about it, this book may not be for you ~ Bethel

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​In the expanded and updated edition of the bestselling book Boundaries, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend explain and break down the concepts of what boundaries are, how they are formed, and how they apply to the different relationships in our lives as Christians. We are reminded that boundaries are not just a good idea, but a biblical idea that represents some of the characteristics of God. You also come to realize that many of the problems in our relationships and personal lives that leave us feeling stuck can be traced back to a lack of boundaries. It helps you define what things are your responsibility and what things are not, and when and how to say yes and no. As the practical application is presented in the difficult types of relationships in our lives, you realize how much work and perseverance are required for boundaries. You may get resistance or even lose some relationships, but the result will be a more fruitful and abundant life. This book is practical, insightful, and a potential game-changer for anyone willing to do the work. Get your copy today!

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Teen Rating. I would be hesitant to recommend this book to a teen. While many of the principles would be useful, teens have to depend on their parents to help them set many of the boundaries in their life at that age so that they have a standard to look towards as an adult. This book also clearly uses language speaking to adults that may confused less mature teens. This would be a great book from them to read after they graduate high school and start looking toward the future. I wish that they had a book on this topic geared toward teens, since right now, they only have a book geared toward the parents of teens.

Singles Friendly Rating. This book does have a lot of practical application for singles. There are even a handful of illustrations of single adults throughout the book. However, the book is predominantly speaking to married adults with kids. There is a whole chapter on boundaries with spouses and one on boundaries with children that I admitted skipped (but will go back to if/when I reach those phases of life). There is also a lot about raising teens in the chapter about social media and technology. Wish there was more information, or even a separate book, that addressed the nuances of setting boundaries as a single adult.

Personal Rating. This book has a ton of biblical grounded and practical information. However, by the time I got to Part 2, it felt a little like drinking water from the firehose, and a large portion of the information and illustrations were not relevant to my current situation. There were a lot of lists, both of the problems lack of boundaries causes and of suggested methods of resolution. So many lists made it hard to keep track. If you are serious about doing the work, I recommend taking your time reading it or looking into the workbook and video curriculum to help make the information easier to process.

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If you are interested in a different perspective on setting boundaries, check out my review of Lysa TerKeurst’s book
​Good Boundaries and Goodbyes